We Are Family Space Agreements

Whenever you attend an event produced by We Are Family, visit Closet Case Thrift Store, or take part in any of our programs you agree to the following rules and agreements:

Household Needs

  • No bullying or harassment (this includes cyber bullying and leaving people out).

  • No drugs or alcohol

  • One person in the bathroom at a time

  • Clean up after yourself: clean up spills, throw away trash, help put up chairs and other supplies

  • Be mindful of your language (do not use oppressive or vulgar language that is disrespectful)

  • Respect each other, volunteers, the space, and yourself

E.L.M.O.

(Enough, Let’s Move On)

If the group or a person has been stuck on a topic for too long, saying “E.L.M.O.” will let us know to get back on track or to move on to a new topic.

Don’t Yuck My Yum

When someone shares something they like, don’t knock it just because you don’t. This adds nothing of value to the conversation. To each their own! (unless it’s oppressive)

Practice Active Listening

Give your attention to people when they are speaking. Listen to HEAR what the other person is saying before responding or interrupting. Give people space to talk about their experiences.

Own Your Impact

If you hurt someone, own your impact no matter the intention. Practice taking accountability and apologizing. Saying “I’m sorry” can go a long way.

Vegas Rule

“What’s said here stays here, what’s learned hear leaves here.”

Respect confidentiality. Don’t share anyone’s personal story or information without consent. This does not include experiences that have to be reported, such as experience of abuse or neglect. Also, some people may use pronouns or names here that they may not want to be used outside of the space.

Move Up, Move Up!

Be aware of how much space you take up in the conversation. If you typically talk a lot, try moving up your listening skills. If you are someone who doesn’t usually speak, try speaking up more. We want everyone to have space to participate in the group.

Other things to Remember

  • If a conversation is triggering and you wish to leave the group please tell a facilitator, so they can accompany you.

  • We take language about death seriously. Although we do discuss self-harm and suicide, we should not be casually mentioning suicide and death in a joking manner. Before making certain statements about death, consider how this can be a trigger for the rest of the group, and for yourself.

  • We encourage you to tell a facilitator if you are being bothered, harassed, or made uncomfortable by someone else in the group.